Practical help guide
Sometimes a friend might not want to share how they are feeling whilst grieving, many people struggle or prefer not to accept emotional help as it’s not something they feel comfortable with at that moment. That’s okay! Bereavement can look and feel very different and its important to consider your loved ones wishes and personal space.
When dealing with bereavement it can often be a challenge to feel normal, let alone manage the everyday tasks and chores. A productive way to support someone who you don’t know that well or would prefer some distance when discussing their emotions, is to ask them if they need any practical support. Especially if you find discussing grief overwhelming, there are still ways to show a loved one that you are there for them.
Ideas of how you can practically support a friend:
If you enjoy cooking or baking, offer to bring round meals or baked goods.
Walking your friend’s dog or offering to pick up pet food supplies.
Picking up their favourite brand of coffee and dropping it round.
Gifting them a food voucher, delivery or if you can’t make time yourself but want to be supportive.
Offer to return any parcels or make a post office run for them.
Do they need their lawn mowing? Or windows cleaned? Organise these services for them.
Offer to help with any admin they might feel overwhelmed by, such as writing emails or deciphering legal jargon.
Perhaps just offering your company. Going with them to get a haircut, nails done, grocery shopping and even cleaning the house together.
Signpost them to different resources, both professional and charitable, to make sure they received the appropriate help. Researching this for a friend brings them one step closer to accepting and reaching out for help. Our Online community, Meet n Grief meetings and online group counselling sessions are a great place to begin!
Sometimes when people are struggling with big emotions such as grief, they often look for company and a listening ear rather than more practical advice. However, if this is something you’re not able to do its okay to let that person know or look for other ways to support them. For example, helping them navigate finding support through charities, communities or professionals.