Plans Without Them

Generally, I’ve found plans for the year start to stir at this point after everyone has somewhat financially recovered from the pressure of the festive period. It can be a cruel reminder that we might be doing things for the first time without them or it might be just another year ticked off that they’re missing.

A birthday, an anniversary or something that the two of you always did. It doesn’t matter how big or small the plan is, when someone you love is missing they’re never the same again.

Some say to still do the things, do them in memory but often I’ve found it can feel like you’re doing things for the sake of it just to appease others when you really don’t want to anymore because it's too painful in that moment.

It’s ok to give things a miss for a little bit when they feel so difficult, you can always come back to them. And if you do celebrate and enjoy the plans, that’s ok and it certainly doesn’t ever mean that their presence isn’t deeply missed because you've found some joy.